2014.04.18

 

 

2014.04.18

沒人會來-你得自我負責

 

  在開學的第一天，我對學生說我們要練習自信，我不斷重複這信息，整學期不斷重複，堅持再堅持，我相信你，你能做好，你能成功承擔生活的責任，要停止抱怨，停止抱怨政府，停止抱怨老師，停止報怨父母，成功與否全在你自己。我對學生充滿期待，把眼光放在學生長處和優點加以培養，奇蹟開始發生了，那些被老師認為不可教的學生改變了，奇蹟繼續發生，學生被老師的熱情所驅動，他們繼續學習，奇蹟繼續發生…孩子積極學習。

  有一個Marva Collins法則，稱為積極學習法則，積極學習法則的重點如下：我想做得很好，我想我很聰明，我想我很特別，我會教每個孩子這樣想，當他們不守規矩的候，被懲罰的學生就是要寫許多原因說明他們棒到要做那樣的事，而且要按照字母順序寫，我很可愛，我很漂亮，我很勇敢，我給他們例子直到他們明白，我令人快樂，我很興奮，我很厲害，我很棒，我是榜樣，我無與倫比…

一直寫到最後一個字母，如果孩子再犯，他們必須要用另一個同義詞，他們不能再用可愛了，他非常棒，他傳遞的訊息，首先他本身就榜樣，和孩子學習榜樣，他們認清誰是榜樣。老師有很高的期望，師生要大量練習自信，要表現優秀與成功。老師有很多期望，期待能看到潛力也欣賞每個人的潛力，停止抱怨別人，坦承自己生活責任。

老師不是軟弱的人，教室裡要求很嚴格，同時也尊重每個學生，老師相信尊重而且要求嚴格，主要目標就是和善和受歡迎，完成事情與工作的關鍵，同時也尊重他人，有樂觀精神的人，可以把事做好，而且可以做得很好。從專注缺點到專注優點。

  一個學生是否聰明，我們要看這個學生有甚麼優點，認清學生的優點與長處，之後，便欣賞他。當我們欣賞他的時候，優點和人都會被增值。假如有一粒種子，是有潛力的，他會長成花草樹木，假如這粒種子，沒有受到灌溉，沒有陽光照耀會怎樣？他會枯萎死去，人類潛能也是這樣。如果我們不灌溉照耀他，他會死去。人際關係也是這樣，如果你不欣賞它的好處，他就會貶值。

你能做甚麼？你能貢獻甚麼？在學校裡，當思「你能為學校帶來甚麼優勢？」自我負責是很重要的，能自我負責的人會承擔責任，為生活承擔責任就是理解「沒人會來」，沒有人會讓你的生活更美好，每個人得為自己的生活負責，才能獲得自信自尊和幸福，能否在經驗中獲得全在你自己。

 

 

On the first day of school, I say to my students,” We are going to do a lot of believing in ourselves”. And I repeat this message over and over and over again, like a broken record throughout the semester and the year and years. I believe in you. You can do well. You can succeed. Take responsibility for your life. Stop blaming. Stop blaming to government. Stop your teacher. Stop blaming your parents. It is up to you to succeed. Having really high expectation of my students, looking at what student are good at, their strength and cultivating those, miracles begin to happen, these students considered by many of the teachers to be “unteachable”. And the miracles continue, and yet the students are driven by their passion. And they continue. Miracles continue to happen to them, children continue learning.

Positive Learning:

Have a law call “Marva Collins positive learning”:

I think I did pretty wonderful.

I think I’m bright.

I think I am unique.

And I’ll teach every child of me to think that. When they misbehave , their punishment is they have to write many reasons. Why they are too wonderful  to do what they are doing. And they have to be alpha order. I am adorable. I am beautiful. I am courageous. I give them the first ones until they get the hang out of it. I am delightful. I am effervescent. I am fabulous. I am heavenly. I am idolized. I am just wonderful. I am a kindred spirit. I am lovable. I am never, never under line. And it goes on to Z. And if they do it again, then they have to use another synonym. They can’t use adorable any more. Now she is wonderful. So what’s her message? First of all, I myself is the message as a role model. Children all identify role models. First and foremost, I myself is the model. I have high expectations, We are going to do a lot of believing in ourselves. We are going to do well, succeed. I expect a lot. I see the potential. I appreciate that potential in each individual. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for your life.

Teachers are no push-over. If you see her in the classroom, she is tough. She is demanding. At the same time, she respects each individual. I am not one of the Pollyannish feel-good. Let’s make them all feel good at all cost. Not at all. I believe in children. I respect children. And I am tough and demanding. Whose primary aim was to be nice and to be liked, the keys to get the job done to get the work done, while being respectful. Sense of optimism. You can do well, you are going to do well. And finally , from focusing on deficiencies to focusing on strength.

Whether or not a student is smart, what we need to ask is what is the student smart at. And when we identify what that student is smart at, strong at, virtuous at, good at , then we appreciate it. And when we appreciate it, it and the whole person appreciate. What would happen to a seed*seed is potential flower, tree, what would happen to a seed, if it is not watered, if no light is shed on it. It will wither and die. The exact same thing with human potential. If we don’t water it , if we don’t shed a light on it, it will wither and die.

What can you do ?what can you bring? What strength can you bring into the school. So that it’s an excellent school. Taking responsibility for it. Self-responsibility is very important. People who have high self-esteem take responsibility, people who want to cultivate high self-esteem and create confidence, take responsibility for their lives and so on. Take responsibility for your life is recognizing understanding that no one is coming. No one is coming to make your life better for you. No one is coming. You are responsible for your life, for your self-confidence, for your self-esteem, for your happiness. No one is coming. No one is coming. It’s up to you to make the most of this experience.