2014.11.19

 

 

 

繼續前進

  這學期對我來說挺不錯的，沒有時麼東西讓我懊惱，進入校園讓人想再度接受挑戰，我現在知道了，應該更早研讀心靈，因為這個議題十分重要，它是如此根本與基礎的，因此當人們意識到，學期中很早就意識到，昨天有幾個人到辦公室來問我，「區別到底在哪裡？」在一、二個月之後，一個已達顛峰的人，管理著菁英學校，在承受了一生的壓力，不斷努力達到高點，不是享受當下，享受旅途，而是被告知要改變。

  我問一個簡單的問題，你要過甚麼樣的生活？積極的模式是甚麼？積極的人從外表看好像一模一樣，可能也是一個充滿雄心壯志的人，極度勤奮刻苦的人，是投資銀行家或醫生，或者律師，或者老師，或者在流浪者之家工作。從外表上看可能完全一樣，但其內在則是迥然不同。怎麼不同呢？區別在於追求卓越的人，也許同樣充滿雄心壯志，有相同目標，可能也達到了同樣的目標。然而此人同時享受旅程，這就是區別所在。

  熱情能感染他人，雖然從表面看，和之前描述的形象一模一樣，因此，不要失去雄心壯志，也不要變得沒有競爭力，學會享受過程，朝著有意義的目的，所邁出的步子才是最重要的。我們如何克服活在未來中的感覺？因為害怕失敗而害怕當下的感覺。這兒有一些方法：首先是認識他，認識到我想改變甚麼？我想保持甚麼？我到底想改變甚麼？因為長久以來，人們總是想著完美，想著成功，潛意識讓人無法擺脫完美主義，因為我會認為那就意味著，把寶寶和洗澡水一起沖走，也就是成功被沖走了。

  我仍然充滿抱負不要放棄成功，同時享受過程，這是最重要的認知，我繼續前進。

 

I can move forward

  This semester for me has been going great. There are very few things that I regret about not having done this semester, but there is one thing I will change next time when I come to school, that I already know of now is have the lecture on the mind body earlier. Because it is such an important topic. It is so foundational, so basic that when I realized that and that was earlier on this semester that I should have had it earlier, I should have had it earlier, you know,  a couple of people yesterday in office hours asked the question, “ so what is really the difference?” a month or two-too late perhaps a smart man gets to being literally on top of the world, overlooking excellence school, and then being informed after a life of constant stress, constantly living the future in point, not enjoying the present, the journey, is being told it is time to change.

  And I asked you a simple question, “what kind of life do you want for yourself?” What is the positive model? Now the positive model from the outside may look exactly the same. It may be a person who is extremely ambitions, a person who is extremely hard working, a person who is an investment banker or a doctor, or a lawyer, or a teacher, or working at a homeless shelter. It may look the exactly same from the outside. From the inside, it is radically difference. How is it radically difference? It that the person who is on the excellence side, may be as ambitious, may be have the same goals, may be reach the same goals. However, that person also enjoys the journey. That is the difference.

  Excitement can contagious others, even though from the outside, it may look the exact same as the “caricature” that I depicted earlier. So it’s not losing our ambition. It’s not about not being competitive. Learning to also enjoy the process, the step on the way to a destination that you deem valuable that is important to you.  How do we overcome this living in the future, being afraid of the present because what if I fail. There are a few methods: the first one is being aware of it, being aware of what I want to change and what I want to maintain. What it is that I want to change? Because for very long time, person associated with perfectionism, with also success, my subconscious were stopping me from letting go of perfectionism because I thought that also means throwing out baby with bath water, i.e.my success.

  I understand that I can still be as ambitious and not give up my success, and yet enjoy the process- that’s a better understanding. And now I can move forward.