物競天擇適者生存〈兼談情緒管理〉

It is not the strongest of the species that survive, 
nor the most intelligent but the one most responsive to change.
達爾文的進化論，談到『物競天擇 適者生存』，原文如上。達爾文的原意是：生存的物種不是最強的，也不是最聰明的，而是最能適應變化的。

  適應是一門知識，control myself  temper. Remember , I can measure the size of a person by what makes myself angry.控制自己的情緒，自己的憤怒誠度是可以測量的。當人與人之間意見不一時〈disagreement〉，下列六點可以幫助我們控制情緒：
1. Listen first
2. Look for areas of agreement.
3. Be honest.
4. Promise to think over your opponents' ideas and study them carefully.
5. Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest.
6. Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem.
1. 先傾聽。嘗試建立理解的橋梁，不要升高誤解的壁壘。〈Try to build bridges of understanding. Don't build higher barriers of misunderstanding.〉
2. 尋找可達成協議點。思索和你相同的觀點。
3. 要誠實。承認自己的錯誤，並說出來。
4. 仔細研究對方想法，並超越他。也就是，不要立即說：我的想法，你就是不聽。
5. 真誠的考慮對方的利益。
6. 延緩行動，給雙方時間來思索這問題。

切記，吵架是無濟於事的，它只是噪音和吶喊。
〈remember, when two people yell, there is no communication, just noise and bad vibration.〉