2014.12.16

 

 

幸福的步驟？

  幸福沒有簡單的步驟，幸福的變化有很多種，第一種是漸進式的，好像滴水穿石，一點一滴慢慢的，很花時間的。第二種方式是突發式的，好像大槌開山劈石，鑿出一條路一個隧道。對於這兩種變化或是所有形勢的變化，必須要注意的是，重點是要將變化持續下去，不是突然一變之後又恢復原狀。因此要注意的是變化不是藥到病除的靈丹妙藥，即便當我們舉起大槌，就是這舉起來的動作，也需要在之前做很多準備的工夫。

  舉例來說，漸進式的變化，包括每天都做感恩練習，慢慢成為一個尋找美好的人，逐漸看到更多積極事務，我們自身也將更容易產生變化，真知灼見不是憑空產生的，而是經過長時間準備後千錘百鍊得來，大家都知道靈感來自99%的汗水，所以說沒有靈丹妙藥，而且正是那種對靈丹妙藥的渴求，大家都很失望，很渴求，發現靈丹妙藥不管用的時候，就覺得自己出了問題。心想，如果我做完了五件事，我的人生就美滿，結果做完五件事，我卻沒有更快樂。沒有靈丹妙藥，任何事都需要時間，幸福沒有甚麼簡單的步驟。

 

No easy steps to happiness

  No easy steps to happiness. There are different kinds of change. The first approach- the gradual approach, like water wearing down stone, chipping away gradually slowly taking our time. The second approach- the acute change, the sledge hammer breaking stone creating a new pathway, a new channel. The important thing to keep in mind with both forms of changes, with all form of change, lasting change that is, which is what we are about. Not just the spike and the return to base level. The thing to keep in mind about change is that neither is quick-fix. Even when we pick up that sledge hammer, even when we pick it up, we need to do a lot of work before the preparation.

   So for example, gradual change, slow change would be doing the gratitude exercise everyday, slowly becoming more and more of a benefit finder, gradually looking more at the positive, that in and of itself makes us more likely to change. The great insight that doesn’t come in a vacuum. It comes after a lot of hard work after a lot of preparation. You know the 99% of perspiration that leads to that inspiration. So no quick-fix. And the believe in quick-fix, the expectation of the quick-fix that is one of the reasons people are frustrated. They are disappointed. They think there’s something wrong with them when they don’t succeed in the quick-fix. Think if I do these five things. I’d be happy for the rest of my life. And I do these five things. And I’m not happier. No quick-fix. It takes time. No easy steps to happiness.