2014.03.30

 

以正向思維解讀訊息

光有信息是不夠的，改變要從心開始；同樣的接收信息關注信息本身是不夠的，看以下的例子：你去參加運動會，目標是進入前三名，獲得獎牌。但是只得到第八名，你會如何分析？你會如何解讀？-太糟糕了，我徹底失敗了，你灰心喪氣，感到無力。

但是從另一個角度看，同樣的比賽，你期望獲得前三名，但只得到第八名，你可以解讀為「我學到了甚麼？我還需要更努力的訓練。」你會更有動力，從經驗中學習，也就是說：同樣客觀的訊息「我是第八名，我的目標是前三名」。

  同樣的信息截然不同的解讀，一個認為是災難，另一個則當成是機遇；一個讓人失去動力；另一個增加動力。

  還有一個普遍的例子，世界上有很多人似乎擁有一切，人生順利，生活富庶，但仍舊不快樂；而另一些人擁有的不多，但從未中斷，從未停止享受人生。還有相反的情況，擁有一切的人，充滿感恩，享受生活。生活窘迫的人覺得自己是受害者，也就是說，重要的不僅僅是獲得了甚麼訊息，還有是何種狀態，如何解讀？如何理解？關注的重點，是由外在環境所決定的。

  因此，解讀比訊息更重要。

 

It’s much more than information transformation is about taking this form and changing it. The same, information in and of itself is not enough. Think bout this example: You go for an athletic meet, your aim is to get into the top three to be a medalist. You come in number eight. What’s the interpretation? –Terrible, I just failed. You fell deflated. Enervated.

On the other hand, the exact same event, you came eight when you expected to be top three. You can interpret it as ”ok, so what have I learned? I need to work even harder.” You become more energized. You learned from the experience. In other words. The same objective information which is “ I got eight; I expected top three.”

  The same information, very different interpretation. One is a disaster, the other interpretation is an opportunity. One leads to loss of energy, the other one to increasing energy.

Or think about another very common example. We know of many people around the world who seemingly have everything, who are doing well, who have more than they need. And yet they unhappy. And then there are people around the world who have very little. And yet they never cease, never stop to celebrate life. And we have another way around as well. People who have everything and appreciate it and enjoy life. People who have very little and who see themselves as victim. In other words, it’s not just the information that goes in. It’s also the shape, the interpretation, the perception, the focus. And that is determined by the shape of the form.

There for, the interpretation matters very often a lot more important.