2014.04.14

 

 

幸福何處尋

如果你非常開心，你還可以更開心。

如果你非常不開心，你也可以更開心。

If you are extremely happy, you can still be happier.

If you are very unhappy, you can still be happier.

 

現在憂鬱症的年齡平均小於15歲，因為孩子很小時後就接觸了「資訊高速公路」，通常而言，他們都還沒準備好，無法有效地應用它。

人通常都做自己相信的事，問題是如何專注於做有效的東西？我想：我們幫助他人，也是幫助自己；我們幫助自己，也是幫助他人。眼光集中在自己的長處而不是缺點，這就是樂觀，樂觀不是不切實際的盲目樂觀，而是樂觀地相信事情會被圓滿解決。「好吧！也許這次不會成功，以後會成功的。」

我真正擅長的是甚麼？認清自己的長處，「設定目標，面向未來」，每個人都有一個榜樣，告訴自己，我想像他那樣。榜樣可以是老師，可以是親戚或朋友，有時候他是一個歷史人物或小說人物，一個可以仿效的人。榜樣給我們力量、方向感。

問題導致改變 問題締造現實

最重要的是樂觀的人不孤單。他們有社會支持，不會說：「我能自己做」，他們說：「我可以請求幫助，因為那確實需要某種能力。」他們有承認弱點的勇氣，承認某種需要的勇氣。想想：問題製造現實，創造可能性。一個問題引起一場探索，問題才是突破點。答案來之不易，但重要的是新問題，有益健康的問題，是一個極為新穎的問題。

The mean age for depression today is less than 15, because kids at very young age are introduced to the ”information highway.” And very often, they are not prepared, not able to deal with it in an effective way.

People were doing something that we really believe in. Now the question is “how do we focus on what works? When we help others, we are helping ourselves, when we help ourselves, we help others, I think so. Focus on their strength rather than primarily deficiencies. These were optimistic, not optimistic in the detached Pollyannish sense, optimistic in that they believe in things that would work out well. “Well. It may not work well this time. It will work out later.”

What am I good at? What am I really, really good at? I will identify my strength. “Our set goals for ourselves. Our were future-oriented.”Everyone have a role model. Someone who they said about” I want to be like her; I want to be like him.”It could be a teacher. It could be a parent, sibling, friend. Sometimes, it was a historical figure or a fictional character. Someone that they want to emulate, to be like. That gave our strength. That gave our sense of direction.

Questions make a difference; Question create reality

And finally most significantly, optimist did not bowl alone. They had social support. They did not say: “Well I am tough enough to do it by myself.”Rather they said:”I’m tough enough to reach out for help”. Because that does require certain toughness. They have strength to admit weakness as well, the strength to admit a need. Now think about these: Questions create reality. They create possibilities. A question begins a question. The question is the breakthrough. The answer comes with difficulty but it is the new question that is important. The salutariness question is a radically new question.