2014.04.23

 

培養能力而非一味改正錯誤

  不要再問：為什麼這麼多人失敗？而是問那些成功的人是如何邁向成功？即使成長環境惡劣，為什麼有些人成功？是的，這是困難、艱辛、不公平的路徑，但那是你的責任，沒有人會幫助你。能否改變自己的人生由自己決定。

  我們如何培養學生，激發他們的潛能？看到學生的潛能、優點和品格。潛能、優點、品德和能力。如果我們看不到學生的潛能，不去栽培他，他就會枯萎而死，人類潛能因此而磨滅。那麼我們應如何讓人們從智力上、情感上、心理上、人際關係上、人格上全面發展？而不只是幫他們擺脫生活中不如意的事。

  我們如何在自身和學生身上栽培偉大的種子？如何在社區和團體中栽培偉大的種子？如何在學校、國家和世界中呢？為了達到這目的，我們須用心經營情感因素。當有人問你這個問題：我們應專注於缺點或專注於優點？大多數人認為要成功，要注重缺點比優點重要，這是大錯特錯，能夠注重自己優點的人，發揚長處的人，不但能更開心，也更能成功。

  指導學生：我人生中甚麼是有意義的？我的目的是甚麼？我為什麼在這裡？畢業後我真正想做甚麼？甚麼是最有利的選擇？甚麼是理想狀態？有玻璃天花板嗎？還是可以尋找更多的刺激、享受、熱情？事實上，在成功方面最大的進展，基本上來自一個觀點，那就是「注重能力的培養而非改正錯誤」，換句話說是健康的心境培養：培養能力、增強長處、改善人際關係、找到人生的意義和熱情。

  No longer, ”why do so many individuals fail?” but started to ask ”what do some individuals do and succeed? Why do some individuals succeed? Despite the unfavorable circumstances? Yes it’s difficult. It’s tough. It’s unfair path. However, it’s your responsibility. No one is coming. It’s up to you to make that difference in your life.

   How can we cultivate the seed of greatness in our student? Saw the strength, the virtues in each single student. A seed, a strength, a virtue, a competence. And when we don’t see the seed of greatness, when we don’t water it and shed a light on it, it withers and dies, which is unfortunately the fate of most human potential. Therefor, how do we get people to flourish intellectually, emotionally, psychologically, interpersonally, intra-personally? How do we get them to thrive beyond just getting rid of what is not working in their lives?

   How can we cultivate the seed of greatness in ourselves and students, in our communities and organizations, in our school, in our nation and in our world? In order to do that, we need to cultivate these traits. Do we focus on weakness, or do we focus on strength? While you ask people this question most people think that it’s more important to focus on their weakness if they are to succeed. Big mistake, the people who focus primarily, not only, remember who focus more on their strength, are not only happier, they are also on the long run, more successful.

   Leading students: What is meaningful to me in my life? What’s my purpose? Why am I here, what do I really, really want to do once I graduate? What is the optimum? What is the ideal? Is there a glass ceiling? Or can it go on and on, more excitement, more enjoyment, more passion? In dead the major strides in success have largely come from a perspective focused on systematically building competency, not correcting weakness. In other words, the health model cultivate: Let’s work on competencies. Let’s work on strength. Let’s work on relationship. Let’s help student identify something meaningful in their life, their passion.