2014.04.26

 

 

激發潛能 培養自尊

   沒有誰的人生是一帆風順的，以引擎比喻，如果我們用的引擎很小想把車開上一個陡峭崎嶇的山坡，引擎很容易損毀爆炸。如果我們的引擎夠大，要上山就容易得多，不費吹灰之力就能做到。所以我們要培養積極性，增強心裡引擎，幫助孩子培養自身能力，應對困難和艱辛的能力。換句話說，必須投入更多資源幫助學生發覺自己的興趣，幫助學生發現人生的意義，使他們認識自己真正想做好事，幫學生克服誘惑，身邊常出現誘惑會偏離自己的道路，鑿掉束縛，擺脫雜念，幫助學生找到真實個性，了解自己的強項，並在復興實現一切。

   所有能力、技能，我認為不只是在復興，而應擴及全球範圍內，很少學校教會這些技能，所以我們要教學生，常思考「我怎樣才能使世界變得更美好」？充滿熱情、理想化、美好、極其美好！所有學生都渴望能改變世界，雖然很多人都認為這一代人以自我為中心，這一代人只關心賺更多錢、買大一點的房子，更成功取得更高榮譽，變得更有威望。青少年有世界上最好的意願，有最善良的心思，想為世界做貢獻，貢獻出時間和金錢；但時而覺得若有所失，覺得能改變世界的力量越來越弱了。為甚麼？因為美好的意願和理想主義雖然必要，卻是不夠的，遠遠不夠的。因為很多時候，即使有很好的意願，孩子的能力還是有限，在某些情況下，我們帶來的傷害多於幫助。有些研究表明，即使到了今天，仍有想做好事的人卻傷害了他們曾給予的幫助。

   如果我們在學生身上看到偉大的潛能，那麼這潛能就可能被激發。這點很重要，更重要的是要懂得如何讚美。

 

    No life is completely immune to those, in other word, we can use is of an engine. If we have a small engine and we have to pull the car up a steep hill, a difficult hill, the engine is more likely to collapse, to blow up. Whereas if our engine is large, we are much more likely to get up that hill, and to do it gracefully with relative ease. So we cultivate the positive, we are strengthening our, metaphorically speaking, psychological engine. Help student cultivate capacity, the capacity to deal with these difficulties and hardships when they arise and they will arise. In other words, there has to be more resources put in places such as helping students identity their passions when they come here, helping students identity their sense of meaning in life, helping students identity what they really, really, really want to do. Helping students overcome the pull, the external pull that is often there, taking them away from their core, helping them chip away those limitations, those voices, helping students identify who they really are, helping students identify their strengths, and pursing those while here at Fuhsing. All these capabilities.

    All these skills or skills that are mostly and I’m not just talking about Fuhsing, globally- not taught in schools, and we need to teach students. And think “How can I make this world a better place?” Passionate. Idealistic Good-in the deep sense, good. This desire to make a difference come into just about all students. There are many people who talk about this generation as the “ME” generation all care about all this generation care about is “well, let me just make make more money”, ”let me just get a bigger house”, “let me just be more succeed and accrue more honor, more prestige. Teenage had all the good intentions in the world, I have all the good intention in the world. I want to do good. I’ve donated my time, my money. But I feel that something is missing, I feel that I’ve fallen short of my potential to really make a difference. Why? Because good will and idealism, while necessary, they are not sufficient. Not enough. Because very often, with very good intentions, we may fall short of what we are capable of doing or in some situation, even hurt more than help. And we’ll Look at some of these studies hopefully still today with very good intentions actually hurt more they helped.

    If we see the seed of greatness in the students that seed of greatness is more likely to flourish. And again, that’s important. But it’s also important to know how to praise.