2014.08.21

能力比知識重要(二)

  在我們談創新過程之前，需要先釐清一些概念。首先我們要問的是，我們真的要改變創新嗎？我是不是真的想要改善我的個性？或我不喜歡的性格或行為。這不是一個無關緊要的問題，也不是象徵性地問自己一下，因為表面上我們可能會說當然，但潛意識裡卻有東西在阻撓我們，想不想改善，想不想改變創新？

第二個問題能不能改變？然後在他們問了這些問題之後，他們去評估正向人格，言行一致對你來說是否重要？值得信賴是不是重要？以及被認為嚴肅認真，對於你來說有多重要？責任感是非常重要的品質，但是他卻阻撓我擺脫擔憂和焦慮。

幸福。通往幸福最大的障礙，就是人們把幸福和偷懶連在一起，因為當今文化中最為人所追捧的，所信奉的真理，就是「沒有痛苦，就沒有收穫」。如果我現在很快樂，就意味著我不再經歷痛苦。就意味著我放棄了，意味著我不會成功，意味著我已失去了稜角，意味著我不再有動力和雄心。所以我們在潛意識裡只選擇不快樂，這樣我們就不會失去其他珍貴的東西，比如雄心壯志，比如長處優勢，比如勤奮認真。學會冒險，從失敗中學習經驗，將失敗看作是未來成功路上的墊腳石。這些不意味著我們會相應的失去動力和雄心抱負。

  克服失敗的恐懼或擔憂焦慮，或罪惡感或種種不幸的關鍵，通常，也不一定是，而是關於理解，或是更好的方法去理解品格的含意。為什麼想要改變別無他法？我可以一天到晚想破頭，我要更勇敢我要釋放出來，我可以想一整天，甚麼也不會發生的，除非我們真正的實質改變，真正的做到，當我們做到這一點，天高任鳥飛。

Ability is more important than knowledge

Before we go to the creative process, there are few things we need to understand. The first thing to understand is this. Do I, do you really want to creative? Do I really want to improve certain things in my personality things that or character or behavior, things that I don’t like. And it’s not a trivial question. It is not a rhetorical question because very often on the conscious level we maybe saying yes, but on the subconscious level something is stopping us. Did you want to improve it? Did you wanna to creative and change this?

The second question were you successful? And then after they answered these questions , they evaluate the positive characteristics. Consistency, is it important to you? Is it important to you to be trustworthy? And how important is for you to be and to be perceived as a serious person? Very important trait, responsibility. But that prevented me from letting go.

Happiness. One of the most significant barrier to people’s happiness is that they associate happiness with slacking off, because the dominant paradigm, the dominant mantra in our culture today is “no pain, No gain.” If I’m happy now, I ignore experiencing pain. It means I’m letting go. It means I’m not gonna be successful. It means I’m gonna my edge. It means I’m gonna lose my drive and ambition. So our subconscious prefers to keep, keep us unhappy. So that we don’t lose the other things that we value highly, things such as ambition, things such as having an edge, things such as our hard work. Learning from failures looking at it as a stepping stone that contributes to our success in the long term. It doesn’t need to take away from our drive and ambition on the contrary.

And the key if we wanna overcome this fear of failure or the worry /anxiety, or the guilt, or the slack of happiness, it’s very often, not always, very often about understanding, or getting a better understanding of these characteristics. And why? There is no other way to change. I can think about it all day long, I want to become courageous, I want to get out. I can think about it all day long. Nothing will happen unless we bring about real actual behavioral change, real actual behavioral action. And when we do that, then the sky is the limit.