2014.10.12

 

釋放壓力使人更堅強

壓力不是問題，壓力本身其實是一件好事，就像在體育運動中，我們鍛鍊肌肉，肌肉就會發展增長。我們心理上情感上給自己壓力，我們就會成長，變得更開朗更堅強。

從小在無菌室裡長大，從未受過外界任何壓力，對人是不利的，例如影響身體的細菌，會使人體產生抗菌體。所以長在無菌環境中對人是不利的，不只是生理上嬰兒的密閉環境，缺乏運動，還包括心理及情感，所以我常說：希望孩子遭受更多的失敗，因為艱難困苦，能給予我們極大的鍛鍊。所以問題不在於壓力，而是缺乏修復。

不僅僅在學校，我們的文化中，都缺乏對休息的重視，大多數的公共場所都沒有足夠的地方進行修復，大多數學校，所以壓力轉變為慢性壓力，變成為長期焦慮，變成憂鬱症。就因為我們沒有修復。

修復有幾個不同的層面：( 多元修復)

  微觀層面的修復，微觀層面上，修復可以是，例如每衝刺90分鐘就休息15分鐘，不要做馬拉松運動員，要做短跑運動員。可以是15分鐘冥想，一小時的午餐，給自己時間好好修復。可以是定期去健身房，聽15分鐘喜歡的音樂，與朋友聊天等等。這是微觀層面的修復。

中度修復

  上班時間進行修復的人，如果工作場所能夠提供修復，能使員工效率更高，更有創意，以長期來看，會更幸福，提高工作滿意度。中度修復包括一夜好眠，每周至少休息一天，放鬆休息以便重新投入工作，最後，還有假期，節日，長假。如果我們片刻不停的運作，會發生甚麼？我們錯過身邊和自身的風景，錯過了獲得快樂幸福，欣賞日常生活中美的機會，所以我們把一切都當作理所當然，因為我們沒有花時間去欣賞體會。

這有悖自然，你能想像？一頭獅子生活在現代世界，在商場，在銀行工作？這是違反自然的，大家都知道獅子要打瞌睡，要追逐嬉戲，這才自然。人性中視野的侷限性，服從權力，人的天性需要修復，所有動物都是。

Recovery Stress become more Strong

Stress wasn’t the problem. That stress in and of itself is actually good, just like in athletics, just like in sports, when we stress a muscle, the muscle develop- it grows. When we stress ourselves psychologically, emotionally, we grow. We become more resilient. We become stronger.

It’s not good for a person who’s just born to be put in a sterile environment and be protected from all the stresses of the outside world, such as bacteria for example, which stresses the system. Cause it forces to grade antibodies. It’s not good for us to be in a sterile environment not physically- whether it’s in a closing environment as babies, not physically in terms of not doing sports, not pushing ourselves, and also not mentally and emotionally- which is why I said time and again: I wish children fail more. Because I think it is important to go through hardships, through difficulties. So stress is not the problem. The problem is lack of recovery.

And that is what we don’t have enough of in our culture not just at school. Most workplace- there is not enough place for recovery; in most school- which explains why levels of stress translate themselves to chronic stress, translate themselves to chronic anxiety, translate themselves to depression. It’s because we don’t have the recovery.

Recovery has a few levels( Multi-level Recovery)

  The recovery on the micro level. Recovery on the micro level, which is, for example, every 90 minutes of sprint, 15 minutes break- instead of marathon runners, being sprinters. It’s 15 minutes meditation. It’s a one hour lunch, where we really give ourselves time to recover. It’s going to the gym on a regular basis. It’s the15 minutes of listening to our favorite piece of music, speaking to a friend or whatever it is. The recovery on the micro level.

The recovery on the mezzo level.

  And people who recover, who have recovered during their workday- show how important it is in a workplace to have recoveries and people who do it are more productive, more creative and in the long term, also happier, higher levels of job satisfaction. Recovery also on the mezzo level the full night sleep, the day off during once a week at least. Time off recreate so that we can create, and finally, the vacations. Holidays . Longer periods. You see, the other thing that happens when we are constantly on the run is that we miss the beauty that’s all around us and within us. We miss the real potential for happiness, for joy, for appreciation that surrounds us day in and day out. And that’s why we take things for granted. Because we don’t take time to appreciate, to savor.

  And it’s not natural to do so. I mean can you imagine? Can you imagine a lion living in our modern world? Can you imagine a lion working at market? Or in investment banking? It’s unnatural. You know what a lion needs to do is yawn. They need to play. It is natural. The constraint view of human nature- nature to be commanded must be obeyed, our nature dictates that we need recovery. All animals do.